Monday, April 26, 2010


"Curiouser and curiouser"  ~ Alice

It was a fairly good day today.  But some ups and WTFs.

S-man came through with some beautiful salmon fillets... enough to feed about 10 people.  So we are planning a fish BBQ this weekend or next. Cool beans!

Picked the fish up from a mutual friend, P... the daughter of my best local friend.  Rumors run fast here.  I had not told them I was moving yet.  What??? you say... you have not told your best local friend???  A WTF moment to be sure.  But she, Kp is a good ten years older than me and , not very approving of live in relationships.  When I told them I could see that in her eyes.  But they had the grace to be quiet about that.  Actually what P said was "You've had a really hard time, you deserve this so don't feel any guilt".

I don't.  I am glad that they took it well though.  In fact, they invited us to their family reunion in June... after I move.  P says "Because you are family, you know".I was unsure about driving back up so soon.  But Randy being the sweetie that he is said "I'm not opposed to that.  It's nice having a life again".  I could not agree more.  There will be lots of people who want to meet him and that will be a good venue. All those looky-loos.  But I kind of like the idea of showing him off too.  Ha.

My other WTF moment came once I was sitting at the computer waiting for Randy to finish his errands and talk to me.  A frog that I have not heard from in a very long time after a sound paulting showed up on my chat.  

We are talking at least 6 months.  I was quite firm about not wanting to continue communication with him back then.  We did not ever talk much. Only a few times.
He was obviously controlling and way too pushy.  On top of that, he hardly spoke to me before he was demanding my address and personal info.  It screamed scam in my head, so I give him the heave-ho.

His message today was ridiculous... as if we were some hot item and how much he missed me.  Huh?  Utter confusion there.  He probably talks up so many women looking to cheat them that he forgets which is which.

I gave my simple and polite message... sorry but I am in a committed relationship and not interested in communication with you.
The message back was that he would only agree  if I promised to be his friend.  I said a very firm no, please do not contact me anymore.  I will not answer any message, email or chat.  We are not friends.  I hardly spoke to you.

So as I am chatting with my fella, he keeps popping up on my chat.  I don't know how to turn the darned thing off and it can interfere with my emails getting in timely.  I was annoyed to say the least as I kept X-ing him out and he persisted.

I told the man about it... and that I wanted to change my email once I got down there on his service.  He said I should not have to do that.  No is no... give him the email address and he would take care of it.  He did.  The chat window became wonderfully calm.  I've no idea what he said.  Don't care an iota.  I'm just glad that he did whatever it was.  Stuff like that guy's persistence unnerves me and I had that "bad feeling" from that creep from the get go.  Sheesh!

Four of my nicest frogs have checked in to see how I am doing.  That is nice and that is fine.
Gave me an opportunity to say that I am so happy that I am moving in with Randy.  Keep things crystal clear.  I do not mind communicating with nice people who stay nice.  But I doubt that they will continue to communicate though and that is fine too.  Got to be honest and got to be clear.  

Randy is not a jealous type and he does not care that I have friends who happen to be male.  Nor is he a bully.  He's really very even tempered.  His best (besides me) friend is female.  I have no problem with that either.  We trust each other.  But he is protective if I am creeped out.  Not a bad thing in my opinion.

Okay.  I've got it all down in my head now.  There are 45 days until I get in my little clown car and go home for good.  And 14 of those days will be spent with Randy anyway.
Thirty one days of no Randy seems like something I can manage with some decorum.
Very cool beans.

Until then, there is work.  I will be starting my inventory two weeks earlier than usual.  I want to be sure no computer snaffoos or drama pops up to delay my departure.  I will have to train someone to take my place.  I am the only one who knows how to run my library system.  I know they will not agree to more than a week or two of training pay for someone.  So it goes.

All I can say is come June 11th I am out of Dumb Potter's Hell for good.

I guess my question today concerning the creepy chat man is did I do the right thing by letting Randy handle it?  Or should  I just have kept X-ing him out until he gave up?  I am curious what you folk think.


  1. I had no idea that frogs could be so ill-adjusted. Randy sounds awesome and I'm glad you've found him! As does your fish BBQ, I need to have a BBQ very soon otherwise I might go crazy.

  2. Really, the chat idiot would only have listened to the man in your life. There are some women who would cave to a man like that despite being in a committed relationship, and obviously he's had that experience. So he would have continued and continued and continued and continued and continued... you get the picture.

  3. Maybe he sent the photo of him with the gun!

  4. Mo-- Thank you. I love to BBQ and to be outdoors. Even when we don't BBQ, we spend a good deal of time on the patio just to enjoy the weather. Yes, you must BBQ soon... we wouldn't want you crazy!

  5. Pamela-- Hahahahaha! Too funy.

    Well I'm sure not that type of woman. Guys like that totally creep me out.

  6. You definitely did the right thing. The guy should have just taken your "No" for an answer, but some guys need another guy to lay down the law before they get it through their skulls.

  7. Suldog-- I do not understand why that type of guy is like that. But I am awful glad that I have the type of guy I do have. :-)

    Thanks. The support I'm getting makes me feel better about it.

  8. sounds like you definitely found a prince there and i am so happy for you. how wonderful.

    also wanted to let you know i responded to your sup related question in the questions on that post. hope it clears things up. :)

  9. Sounds like you are getting all your ducks in a row...and your frogs too! That creep sounds supremely creepy and I don't think there is one single thing wrong with Randy having a word with him.
    It really isn't much, so enjoy your little days left in Dumb Potter's Hell. Soon you'll only be a visitor there.

  10. lime--Thanks! I will go have a look see.

  11. laura b.-- You are right of course. It is not much time. I am just short on patience. Ha. But what a nice thought... to only be a visitor to Dumb Potter's Hell! Thank you for that one.

    He was an icky creep!

  12. I say, by any means necessary. I would either have told him I was going to report him or did just what you did and let Randy take care of it. What a great guy to take the trash out for you, so to speak. ha ha.

  13. Churlita-- Yep! Randy is a great guy. I should have reported him. Too late now, I deleted everything and wiped him from my contact list the last time I told him to go away.
    The only way I could find an email to him to give to randy was in my sent file. Now he's even gone from there. The trash is gone. Big grin.

  14. Sorry I'm late to this, but I had my in-laws visiting for two days and couldn't get away.

    I don't see anything wrong with letting Randy
    handle the frog-that-wouldn't-take-no-for-an-answer. If he hadn't been so insistent, he would've gotten the nice message and hopped over to another pond.