Okay... three days and counting them down to
I still don't know what I am going to do with my spring break. I thought I knew a week ago... but then my situation took that sharp left turn with DH and now I am left up in the air. I asked him to consider what chunks of my time he wanted. While he does that... I sit in limbo. Not that I mind. Nope. I'm liking how things have turned out. Ha. But I do not want to make plans until I know what I want to plan around. hummmmm...
I suppose there is always packing. I will also spend some time on line applying for school jobs down in his area. Got to line that part up too. And I know I want to spend some more time getting to know Jack better.
As for the curiosity about DH... what can I tell you? He is younger than me. But not by too much. Four years. DH is a cabinet maker. He also makes toys and has a great shop. He does side work too. Very talented and artistic. I love watching him work. When I get bored, I wander off and do whatever I want. It works well for us.
Personality wise, he has a great sense of humor. Is a terrible tease and I love to be teased. He can tell a story and really get me going. I buy it up hook line and sinker and then he hits the punch line and slays me. There is a real art to telling good stories. The man has the knack.
History wise, we have both come from some hard lessons with ex partners. He has been extremely cautious and I do understand that. It is hard to trust when you have had your trust shattered by people you believed in. He has a great family that I truly like. Nice after my ex's family that I was glad to divorce right along with him. (Except for P and J... who are still family to me and sometimes lurk here.)
Do I expect to hear wedding bells in the near future? NO.
This is a slow and careful process. Maybe never. He is very independent and has lived alone in his home for a number of years. Yes, as someone sort of asked... he owns his own home. I don't need one. I will still live with Jack. I respect DH's space. We are not horny 19 year olds. There is no rush. If we ever do live together or more, it would have to be right and I'll leave that completely up to him. I have in the past shown a real lack of ability to choose well on that issue.
Like I said... I like his family a lot. His mom is also my friend and very happy about our getting together. His little grand daughter still calls me grandma... which tickles me pink. No one is trying to correct her... but I do wonder what his ex will think of that one. Ha. I have met everyone so far but his ex and I guess that is coming up.
My family is happy too. dabear has met him... and he my little arch angels, Mikey and Gabriel (grandson and great nephew who live with dabear.) as well as cousin J, Gabriel's dad. Boo introduced himself to DH on the night that we met in the bar here in town... the night before we went to the coast and started all this.
Max and Squeaky have yet to meet him, but it will not matter. My kids want me to be happy. In fact, Squeaky used to say to me... mom, if you like DH so much... why are you dating other guys? Well, hey... I did not know this would happen then or I would never have bothered.
It seemed prudent at the time.
But in that vein... I have pulted all that I can. Deleted files and contacts. Canceled my eharmony. A funny note on that... DH and I were both talking about how it did not seem like eharmony was working for us. Now isn't that funny? I have four that I have to send personal emails to... out of fairness. These have spent time and money on me. All are invested on some emotional level.
So there is a danger to having a pond of frogs. You have to do something with them at some point that is not happy. Wish me luck on that. I figure that honesty is the best policy... so tonight I send those out and then I am free and clear of all obligation to any frog.
Is DH a prince? You betcha! Kind, honest, sweet, funny, bright, generous, patient, gentle... hard to beat that combo. A good, normal and decent man. But most of all, he makes me very happy. Isn't that what matters most? I can't even recall being this happy in my life. If he has faults, I have not seen them yet. Of course we all do. Goodness knows that I am full of them. But the ticket is if you can overlook and accept those faults. Meanwhile... we can take it nice and slow.
So enough on my fella. I'll bore you to death. Tell me... got any suggestions for my spring break? I am open to any and all... no matter how absurd or wonderful. What would you do? Man am I ready for this one!
Happy hump day!